> I intended it without judgment

I don't doubt you. But you didn't write it without transforming what they said in the first paragraph into something else in the second. I'm not calling for your head here, just pointing out a flawed linguistic turn that enables people to dismiss complaints about being left out again and again and again as histrionic (like I see nawgz doing in that sibling comment).

I disagree. I don't think there's anything to transform. "Offense" is an apt summary for the complaints. One of the HN guidelines is to read charitably, and in general splitting semantic hairs is rarely interesting IMHO.