I honestly don't know what I'm going to do in the future, there's no chance I'm ever going to buy a modern "car", it's going to get tougher and tougher to keep a real vehicle running after enough decades have passed. Of course a non-modern car is infinitely easier for the average individual person to maintain and keep running so I'll be able to keep going for a long time.
For the same reason you never get malware USB sticks in the mail to stick into your computer. It costs money.
I'd be curious on the HN perspective. Are we less willing to accept this from software because it's taken as a given that when "it's just software" changes are easy? Does it imply that the software process (particularly requirements and testing) are not as robust as with hardware processes, leading to more frequent updates? Does it imply we are overly reliant on software to mitigate hardware issues because "it's easier"? (I'm thinking, in part, of the 737-Max issue for the last one).
Unfortunately, "the lawsuits get filed" is comfortably beyond the planning horizon of any entity out there right now, even though we're talking about lawsuits with the reasonable chance of driving the affected companies right out of business.
That is the problem and that is the reason why every OEM will support OTA in the near future.