Wow, that's very insightful, and explains the dev's response. He genuinely thought he was being insulted.

This says a lot about me, but I empathize with that. That the reason I strive to be perfect in everything is that I feel like I'm under attack. Illogically, because I was, as a child, continually insulted.

It's a shitty way of living, trust me. But I get it.