Re:Bill and Melinda gates divorce after 27 years of marriage
by me_me_me on Thursday May 06, 2021 @12:08PM
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> It takes two to tango, You can do everything right and your partner may still cheat on you, manipulate the children to dislike you, etc
Absolutely, some people will roll triple 1 and land their feelings on absolute garbage of a human and will get hurt.
I think the point I was trying to make was that one of components of long term marriage is that you need to keep it up (both sides need to keep it up).
Re:Bill and Melinda gates divorce after 27 years of marriage
by eska on Friday May 07, 2021 @05:12PM
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I agree. My problem with your previous post was just that it sounds like "either you're doing this wrong or you're doing that wrong" without acknowledging that it's possible to not have done anything wrong, or at least anything warranting a divorce.
It takes two to tango. You can do everything right and your partner may still cheat on you, manipulate the children to dislike you, etc. It is unfair to say "you married too quickly" (apart from shotgun marriage, at some point you must make a leap of faith after all) or your second point that this person must not have tried hard enough. There are many reasons a marriage can fail, an many of them are out of one's control.