On incels, dead bedrooms and the hard problems of loneliness

Re:On incels, dead bedrooms and the hard problems of loneliness by Nursie on Tuesday May 04, 2021 @02:01PM (#27040515)

> Yeah man I don't think I would classify a committed relationship where partners end up missing their partner when they're gone as "codependent".

> I spent every day without her more or less miserable

This is a bit more than "missing" them.

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Re:On incels, dead bedrooms and the hard problems of loneliness by ratww on Tuesday May 04, 2021 @02:09PM (#27040644)

This phrase is kinda ambiguous.

I still don't understand if by that sentence the article author means he was miserable before, or if this means he misses her after just one day of her being away. "Spent" is in the past, so I assumed it's the former.

I have the impression that people are talking about different things in some replies.

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Re:On incels, dead bedrooms and the hard problems of loneliness by Nursie on Tuesday May 04, 2021 @02:38PM (#27041140)

> I still don't understand if by that sentence the article author means he was miserable before, or if this means he misses her after just one day of her being away.

Honestly to me it's not important, if it's either of those things, if it's misery every day without someone that's pretty extreme. IMHO, YMMV etc. Glad he's happy, but that's a lot to put on a partner.

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Re:On incels, dead bedrooms and the hard problems of loneliness by La1n on Tuesday May 04, 2021 @02:19PM (#27040832)

But;

>It’s arguable she’s the only reason I’m able to be happy.

Is less ambiguous. I would not want to be in a relationship with someone who is that dependent on me to be happy.

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