It's a bit like if someone says something about how "quantum mechanics means that your consciousness can alter reality" and you said "that's not what it means" and they said "okay then what is the correct interpretation of quantum mechanics" and you said "it's complicated and there are different opinions" like just because there's debate doesn't mean all opinions are equally authoritative.

Very common in Judaism. As we like to say, "two jews, three opinions."

I thought it was "10 Jews, 11 opinions"?

See, we can't even agree on the wording of the expression that describes how much we disagree about things! :P

as a jew, this is simply the nature of judaism

Ya, an equally good response is “Welcome to Judaism”

Though the sibling comment is more accurate.