Re:My experience with sexual harassment in the Scala community
by Pfhreak on Tuesday April 27, 2021 @07:21PM
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> she is not referring to the events as "rape", so maybe you shouldn't either.
Can you point to where I used that word?
Re:My experience with sexual harassment in the Scala community
by baobabKoodaa on Wednesday April 28, 2021 @05:07AM
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> Can you point to where I used that word?
Sure! I'm particularly referring to this exchange upstream. First, mirekrusin says:
> Rape is doing it, not insisting, I think.
...And then you respond to this comment in a way that indicates that rape occurred:
> Sex was had while she did not consent, she mentions in the fifth paragraph.
Here is a direct link to your comment: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=26961759
If 2 people are intoxicated and have sex, do they both rape each other? If one person holds more power than the other, while both are intoxicated, is it just a one-way rape? Or is it still a two-way rape, where one person just "rapes a bit more" and the other person "rapes a bit less"? What if the person who had power ends up regretting sex afterwards and cries, does it "turn the tables" and cause the rapist to suddenly become the victim of rape, after the fact?
Yes, she was drunk. Yes, she later regretted having sex. These things alone do not mean that rape was committed. As far as I can tell, she is not referring to the events as "rape", so maybe you shouldn't either.