Maybe you've had direct interactions with community members, but it is very unfair for you to characterize the Elm community as "unfriendly" based off of your reading of a few posts.

My actual experience has been exactly the opposite: I've interacted with many members of the community (at multiple Elm conferences, in the Slack, and even twice met members of the community for in-person meetings when they were visiting near my office). All of these interactions have been the entirely opposite of "unfriendly".