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A comment on Ask HN: How to Speak Confidently?.

Re:Ask HN: How to Speak Confidently? by codr7 on Wednesday April 14, 2021 @01:19PM (#26810135)
The thing to realize is that you're causing these issues in your own mind, which means you're free to not cause them.

Meditation might help, making a distinction between you and your mind allows externalizing and observing the mind in action.

Once you have managed that, consider giving retrospectives a shot. Simply walk through whatever situation you want to learn from backwards (starting with most recent events help) in your mind as an observer.

The problem with confidence is that it's a side effect of knowing and trusting yourself, and that takes real world experience.

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Re:Ask HN: How to Speak Confidently? by curious_dev on Wednesday April 14, 2021 @01:52PM (#26810600)
Thank you ! I have started meditating recently, it has helped me calm down my nerves in these situations.

> The problem with confidence is that it's a side effect of knowing and trusting yourself, and that takes real world experience.

I think this is one of the problems for me. I don't trust myself enough and start feeling like my knowledge is lacking which creates a negative feedback loop.

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