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Re:Ask HN: How to Speak Confidently? on Wednesday April 14, 2021 @02:05PM (#26810771)
Don't you think this will bring down your reputation ?
Re:Ask HN: How to Speak Confidently? on Wednesday April 14, 2021 @02:03PM (#26810752)
Thank you for taking the time to answer. I just wanted to make it clear that I don't always get negative feedback but when I do, it makes me very stressed and I can not think straight after that. Someone also mentioned in this thread that being a non-native speaker is hard, which is true in my case.

I have worked with mid sized companies so far, where I have managed to work with it but I will start a FAANG job soon and just don't want to be in this situation when I start, specially when I am going to meet 10x more experienced and sharp engineers.

Re:Ask HN: How to Speak Confidently? on Wednesday April 14, 2021 @01:52PM (#26810600)
Thank you ! I have started meditating recently, it has helped me calm down my nerves in these situations.

> The problem with confidence is that it's a side effect of knowing and trusting yourself, and that takes real world experience.

I think this is one of the problems for me. I don't trust myself enough and start feeling like my knowledge is lacking which creates a negative feedback loop.

Re:Ask HN: How to Speak Confidently? on Wednesday April 14, 2021 @10:58AM (#26808026)
Thank you for such a detailed response, this is really valuable. I would try to experiment and see what works for me.

Ask HN: How to Speak Confidently?

How do I learn to speak confidently in a group setting ? Sometimes when I start speaking and if people are silent or if I can not read their expressions, I start loosing confidence. If someone interruptus and start asking questions or criticizing, I loose my train of thought and start second guessing my ideas and opinions. I start to avoid participating or stop presenting my ideas. This is...

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