Nothing makes sense. Nobody knows what to do or how to work this shit. Moving targets.

Last time I had a girlfriend I'd come off a 2 year spree of virtual homelessness and poverty. I was living with my parents (mom and dad, both separated) transiently. I was dirt poor, drugs problem, losing jobs etc... She was in college studying to become a nurse. It wasn't one of those asymmetrical relationships either. She wasn't on the goon squad.

Now that I have money, my own place, some direction and intention in my life... In most context where I have exposure there's some sort of hazard. Like trying to do anything at work when there might be a signal there seems like a terrible idea. Way too much potential for bad shit. At college, well shit I don't know if I'd be okay with dating anybody younger than 21, or a 21 year old for that matter (which is the rough majority). Even if we assume the age floor was 28 I still wouldn't dare approach anybody without evident interest, and networking at school is impossible because I'm swamped with work and work. I can get conversations started on Tinder, but they burn out fast and hard, no effort on the other end. I get a lot of matches, but I've only managed to finagle 2 dates out of what has to be hundreds of matches. I can't say how many I've actually opened, the odds look like shit regardless. Doesn't help that I live in an ultra-conservative rural cesspool where there's like... .5 degrees of separation.

And then what are you to take from all the man-bashing shit? All the vitriolic speech against white males? And so on and so forth.

I'll go to pornhub, thanks.

> And then what are you to take from all the man-bashing shit? All the vitriolic speech against white males? And so on and so forth.

If you were an alpha male you'd never be paying attention to this in the first place. This is only a concern if you're reading memes spread by neurotic people on the internet.

This makes no sense because women today are more sexually free than they have ever been. In absolute terms women are still often slut shamed, but it's still less than in the past.

That's true but there's the woke / me-too movement now. I have a "friend" that I met from Tinder during early pandemic, we only met once because of it, and then it was purely sexting exchange of pictures and so on.

Last month she started following a local me-too movement FB group that had women sharing about their past harassment experiences and calling out their aggressors, that ranged from total abuse of power, to sexual innuendos over IM.

Last couple of times we texted each other mostly consisted of her showing me past screenshots of chats where someone (from Tinder) would be sexually suggestive, nothing explicit, and would start to tell me how she didn't realize that she was being harassed and that she's being disgusted by them.

Sounds like you’re on speaking terms still, maybe now’s the time to get that affidavit signed that everything was consensual. :D I’m kidding.. but maybe I’m not.

How far back does this millenials have less sex thing compare too? Today's women that grew up in the 90s yeah probably is more free then one from 50s and earlier. But compared to the 70s? I don't think it's farfetched to guess that society's feelings towards women sexuality have regressed since the sexual revolution of the 70s. Paris Hilton having a sex tape coming out was a huge deal, that's what millennial girls grew up with.

I don't mean to suggest that this is the only reason, I just think it contributes.