> the fact raising a child is something that all human beings are biologically engineered to find overwhelmingly fulfilling

This is very much not a fact, and I really wish society as a whole would stop pretending that absolutely everybody wants to be an actual parent. Then maybe the people who do find parenting fulfilling can do that while those of us that don't can make up for them instead of being pressured into a role that we can't and/or don't want.

Fair call. "All" was not the right word to use - although it most people are wired this way.

I guess that word choice was mainly a reaction to the parent's langauge, where she seemed to be suggesting that career success is the be all and end all. It's an idea that was shoved down the throats of my generation (late milennials) by corporate/university propaganda and had to be unlearned painfully.

many don't realize thats what they want until they actually go through with having the kid though

Some people (even women) are impatient to go back to work because being with a toddler all day everyday isn't fun to everyone. Some people simply enjoy their job a lot. Or because reality takes a toll and you prefer to have a nice house and everything money permits even if that means a few less hours per day with your kid. Or the balance of all of this.