NYTimes Peru N-Word: My side of the story, in four parts

Re:NYTimes Peru N-Word: My side of the story, in four parts by etchalon on Monday March 01, 2021 @05:43PM (#26309492)

Because life shouldn't be spent afraid to apologize, or in constant debate about whether an apology is "required."

If you hurt someone, whether intentional or not, apologizing is the least you can do.

If you don't believe an apology is warranted, apologize, and sort though where the disconnect is later.

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Re:NYTimes Peru N-Word: My side of the story, in four parts by anoncake on Tuesday March 02, 2021 @06:51AM (#26314297)

No. By apologizing, you admit what you did was wrong/a mistake. If you don't actually think your apology is warranted, it's nothing but a lie.

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Re:NYTimes Peru N-Word: My side of the story, in four parts by etchalon on Tuesday March 02, 2021 @09:02AM (#26315378)

I’m sorry, that’s nonsense.

First, you can injure someone, physically or emotionally, without making a mistake or being wrong.

So, it’s possible to feel guilt over an injury even if ultimately, you did the “right thing.”

The point of an apology isn’t solely to say “I was wrong”. They can be an acknowledgment of the injury you caused.

If your actions cause an injury, and you feel no need to apologize, because you “didn’t do anything wrong”, you’re just an asshole.

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Re:NYTimes Peru N-Word: My side of the story, in four parts by throwaway210222 on Tuesday March 02, 2021 @09:34AM (#26315702)

> Because life shouldn't be spent afraid to apologize

Unless by apologising you start a new process of (often absurd) penalties that you cannot control.

Exactly why lawyers instruct people to never apologise or admit fault in even the smallest fender benders.

Never mind offending the woke.

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