That’s not how divorce works. It’s not an end if you have kids. It’s the beginning of something different. But you’re still tied together. So now you have twice the expenses, half the time with the kids who now need you more than ever, more reason to fight with each other, and possibly even more resentment, all compounded by your own personal feelings of loss and failure. Yay, what a win for everyone involved.

Also, realize that people don’t generally get to a divorce by talking things out and figuring divorce is the only option. Even if they do talk things out it’s usually only after divorce is inevitable.