Yes there is some of that, but at least SQL is rather readable and declarative, even if the syntax is way too irregular for the ideas.

I blame less SQL false advertising, than the insane tunability and lack of effort into migrations tooling for making the relational database world so much more kafkaesque. Or really between the nature of Oracle, Microsoft, and their customers, it might have been an inevitable insanity along the lines of Conways law and too profitable -> too many cooks in the kitchen -> too complex.