Agreed, the beef needs to be with Apple, developers targeting the platform are trying their best, and to say that they shouldn't support the platform if they can't deliver a quality product is disingenuous; you can have a quality product and Apple's policies and restrictions can absolutely destroy your UX; I've experienced this first hand.

It's not that Apple doesn't budge, if people shout loud enough; their Push/APNS change deadline was pushed back twice, it can happen again if enough people push enough for them to start treating their 3rd party developers like first class citizens.