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Re:Being kind to others is good for your health by enriquto on Saturday December 19, 2020 @04:18PM (#25481298)
> so many people (in my industry/nation/orbit) mistake kindness for weakness.

A complementary but closely related problem is that many people mistake unkindness for aggression.

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Re:Being kind to others is good for your health by harimau777 on Saturday December 19, 2020 @06:44PM (#25482407)
Isn't it though? At least if it's intentional.
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Re:Being kind to others is good for your health by xyzelement on Saturday December 19, 2020 @07:08PM (#25482572)
>> Isn't it though? At least if it's intentional.

I suspect what the grandparent refers to is people who are offended at hearing "no." Example - someone asks to get in front of you at a line. If you're feeling kind, you say yes. Saying "no" is just neutral, but many people perceive it as a "fuck you."

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Re:Being kind to others is good for your health by enriquto on Sunday December 20, 2020 @01:43AM (#25484422)
> Isn't it though? At least if it's intentional.

No, it isn't. You can be unkind and peaceful. Civilization is based on the possibility that people who hate each other can still work together for the common good. Intentional kindness is often disgustingly hypocritical, at least in my (non-U.S.) culture.

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