There are so many men who employ a strategy of just bombarding every single woman on the platform. This results in women getting dozens to hundreds of extremely low quality matches for every quality match. If this somehow doesn't cause the woman to just give up immediately, then she's at most going to only look at most at a dozen or so of those matches before she gives up, and they're almost all going to all be garbage.

This means that there at best only a 1-10% chance of a woman even seeing a quality message directed at her, given the sheer volume of garbage being directed at them.

It's the same reason why you don't notice the genuinely good deals in the massive amounts of advertisements you're bombarded with every day. The sheer volume of noise just makes the whole system far more useless than you would expect.