Some of the absolute BEST women to date (Personality, Character, Career, Family, Attractiveness) that I know, always typically prefer dating through social circles. Almost all of the women I know, especially women that are extremely attractive, with average or below average attractive partners, are through social circles. A friend of a friend. These are men that typically receive near zero likes on online dating platforms, yet, in the real world, can do extremely well with women because of their character (Charming, Funny) etc. This I know Anecdotally of course.

I think this, in part explains why some people find “real life” as despairing as online. I haven’t had a “social circle since HS”.

Yeah this is a good point. All these comments about dating sites are true, and they really suck. Which is a great reason to get off dating sites if you can. They make every problem with dating much worse.

Outside them the problems aren't quite as bad.