You ever ask a date why they swiped on your profile? It's a good question for 10-15 minutes in to the first conversation. It's always revealing - about you, about how you're perceived, and about how the other person perceives you and what matters to them.
Also - bug your desired-sex friends and family. Show them your profile. Focus-group it. This has been massively helpful for me.
At the end of the day: change stuff and see what happens.
Re:Never Pay for Online Dating (2010)
by corpMaverick on Thursday November 12, 2020 @05:03AM
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We just matched a friend of mine from New England with a friend of my wife from Mexico. He is a great guy but he had already given up on dating. And it was actually the girl who asked if we knew someone. But most people will not ask their friends.
My wife and I are wondering how the Indian Matchmaker business model work. How do you align the incentives so you can help people and get some extra income?
Re:Never Pay for Online Dating (2010)
by closeparen on Thursday November 12, 2020 @01:13PM
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The social penalties that constrain people in your circle from being jerks also constrain you from expressing potentially unwanted interest, though. People will stop introducing you to their friends if you’re constantly asking them out. I feel a lot more confident expressing what I want to strangers. Have you not found the same?
The last part -- matching with people you like is where I see a real need for a specialist that I'm an unaware to exist -- there could be soooo much at play there. The demographics of that group, what that group REALLY wants in a partner, honest feedback for yourself, what to improve in yourself etc etc.