I would say that it involves unlearning the bad lessons that Hollywood, TV, and advertisements teach you about love.

Being happy in a relationship is not about somehow managing to trick someone into being with you, nor is it about somehow lifting yourself up to the standards of masculinity / femininity you see in media.

Does that mean that you don’t actually know?

“I like to consider myself a love expert”

—Olaf, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gVCCYAYr-24

I’m not a therapist or relationship counselor. I really only have my opinions and personal experiences to share.