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Re:Never Pay for Online Dating (2010) by klodolph on Wednesday November 11, 2020 @03:55PM (#25062870)
It doesn’t really answer the question of whether Tinder works, it just pushes some numbers around and compares it to an economy, and says that if you think of Tinder as an economy, then the economy would be very unequal.

The problem is that the comparison totally falls apart. You are not competing to get the most likes on Tinder, you are just trying to meet someone to form a relationship or make out or whatever. If you’re really interested in comparing Tinder against other avenues for achieving this goal (or whatever goal you have), then you should be looking at something like WAR—wins against replacement. How likely are you to have a positive outcome using Tinder versus using some other site, or trying to meet people in person.

If you want to find a place where it’s easy to find someone cute who wants to make out, then the only real answer is to be a gay man (do whatever you need to make that possible), clean yourself up, and move to the city.

If you’re interested in a heterosexual relationship, you are simply going to have to deal with the fact that men and women in our culture have, on average, differing preferences when it comes to relationships. If you have typical preferences for a single man in our culture, then they don’t match typical preferences for a single woman in our culture, and if you find a relationship, it will involve some bridging of the gap between your different desires. Tinder doesn’t change that, and neither do any of the other sites.

Re:Never Pay for Online Dating (2010) by HeyHoJoe on Wednesday November 11, 2020 @04:06PM (#25062974)
What do you imagine that bridging of the gap looks like?
Re:Never Pay for Online Dating (2010) by klodolph on Wednesday November 11, 2020 @04:14PM (#25063063)
I would say that it involves unlearning the bad lessons that Hollywood, TV, and advertisements teach you about love.

Being happy in a relationship is not about somehow managing to trick someone into being with you, nor is it about somehow lifting yourself up to the standards of masculinity / femininity you see in media.

Re:Never Pay for Online Dating (2010) by HeyHoJoe on Wednesday November 11, 2020 @04:22PM (#25063137)
Does that mean that you don’t actually know?
Re:Never Pay for Online Dating (2010) by klodolph on Wednesday November 11, 2020 @04:31PM (#25063259)
“I like to consider myself a love expert”

—Olaf, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gVCCYAYr-24

I’m not a therapist or relationship counselor. I really only have my opinions and personal experiences to share.