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Re:Burnout can exacerbate work stress, further promoting a v... by giantg2 on Tuesday November 10, 2020 @06:14PM (#25053379)
The legal issue isn't a big deal, but I certainly don't need that work on top of everything else. It was for an off-leash dog. The real problem was that we had a totally incompetent trooper make numerous mistakes on the citation, including a mis-citing it as a more serious charge and lying to a judge. I'm trained and licensed by my state in a quasi law enforcement capacity and even I'm shocked at the dysfunction of the system in this case. (On an unrelated matter the previous judge was arrested on multiple charges).

I don't think therapy would help. I would not be happy paying money for someone to just facilitate a conversation. I'll just deal with it until I can't, then I'll quit my job and she'll have to start helping out or listen to me about moving.

Re:Burnout can exacerbate work stress, further promoting a v... by omginternets on Tuesday November 10, 2020 @08:42PM (#25054638)
> I don't think therapy would help. I would not be happy paying money for someone to just facilitate a conversation. I'll just deal with it until I can't, then I'll quit my job and she'll have to start helping out or listen to me about moving.

Do what you want, but none of that makes sense.

Re:Burnout can exacerbate work stress, further promoting a v... by gowld on Tuesday November 10, 2020 @06:36PM (#25053595)
You might find therapy much cheaper than the cost of cleaning up the mess when this gets worse.
Re:Burnout can exacerbate work stress, further promoting a v... by giantg2 on Tuesday November 10, 2020 @07:12PM (#25053914)
That depends on it working. If I've already been open and honest, then what more can a therapist do? The only thing I can think of is the therapist using authority or shame, and that's not allowed.

To me it sounds like me paying money for someone to facilitate a conversation. We aren't hostile, so I don't think that's necessary.

Re:Burnout can exacerbate work stress, further promoting a v... by athenot on Tuesday November 10, 2020 @08:18PM (#25054463)
Therapy is more than facilitating a conversation. It may help reframe her (and your) point of view on your relationship. And that doesn't have to entail authority or shame; quite the opposite.

Check if your insurance covers it, some plans do.

Re:Burnout can exacerbate work stress, further promoting a v... by omginternets on Tuesday November 10, 2020 @08:44PM (#25054651)
> If I've already been open and honest, then what more can a therapist do?

Among other things, figure out why your wife isn’t hearing you