Burnout can exacerbate work stress, further promoting a vicious circle

Re:Burnout can exacerbate work stress, further promoting a v... by zo1 on Tuesday November 10, 2020 @05:52PM (#25053177)

That's ridiculously unfair and I'm sorry borderline abusive. If you guys are in a potentially precarious situation financially, then there is absolutely no justification why she should spend most of her earnings on entertainment whilst the bulk of your earnings go to necessities. Any excess earnings from you and her should go towards your family savings for future financial security, your children and retirement. Entertainment/hobbies should be put on the end of the list of things to use excess money on.

Please put your foot down and draw some boundaries (don't ask or beg). Be stern, and give her no choice but to spend her income on the family instead of selfish individual hobbies.

[ Parent | on HN ]

Re:Burnout can exacerbate work stress, further promoting a v... by giantg2 on Tuesday November 10, 2020 @06:22PM (#25053465)

Thanks for the input. It's not a precarious financial situation right now. As long as I have this job, I should be able to support us. I just won't have much money or time for hobbies (the hobbies I do partake in add value, like a garden and mushrooming for food). I also don't have the option of switching jobs. I've talk about cancelling unnecessary things unless she pays for them (the only thing is netflix). She said she'll just mooch off her mom.

[ Parent | on HN ]

Re:Burnout can exacerbate work stress, further promoting a v... by ninja-z on Wednesday November 11, 2020 @03:20AM (#25056509)

You should reconsider the therapy option, it can be worth the money. I’m coming from a similar situation. Went to marriage therapy for 6 months then gave up on that since I thought it was going nowhere. To my surprise a few months after that ended, some deep issue which was real root cause was revealed and now we are finally addressing it and turning the corner on improving the situation.

[ Parent | on HN ]