Re:How to deal with extreme physical pain
by darkerside on Saturday October 31, 2020 @01:09AM
(#24949267)
Within a range, you get to interpret the actions of others. It's like one of those optical illusions where you can see a rabbit or a duck, but not both at the same time. One of those illusions will anger you and sap your strength. The other will connect you with another human being on some level, however superficial, which is wired to make you feel happy and fulfilled. Neither is the full vision of truth. But you are free to choose the lens through which you view the world.
[ Parent
| on HN ]
Re:How to deal with extreme physical pain
by BeetleB on Saturday October 31, 2020 @01:16AM
(#24949301)
The ironic thing is that the original complainant is making this exact same point about those who give this advice. Typically they're not trying to connect - they're trying to fulfill their own needs without understanding the other's needs.
Re:How to deal with extreme physical pain
by darkerside on Saturday October 31, 2020 @04:07PM
(#24954768)
None of us fully understand each other's needs. You can get frustrated about that, or educate others. It's a personal choice. I don't judge anyone either way (or at least, I agree they are free to make their own decisions), but having done both, I certainly have my own observations about which of those leads more effectively to happiness.