I agree it’s hard to judge a particular case without seeing the specific example. But you might want to consider the following:

“ No subtle put-downs or unfriendly language. Even if you don’t intend it, this can have a negative impact on others.”

https://meta.stackexchange.com/conduct

“Be kind. Don't be snarky. Have curious conversation; don't cross-examine. Please don't fulminate. Please don't sneer, including at the rest of the community.“

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

I’d be curious if you feel that your comment meets these guidelines? If not, do you think the relevant sites would be better served by changing the guidelines?