How to say no, for the people pleaser who always says yes

Re:How to say no, for the people pleaser who always says yes by dmichulke on Wednesday September 23, 2020 @01:23AM (#24563276)

Book recommendations in that respect:

- "No more Mr. Nice Guy" Robert A. Glover: A great book on identification and elimination of nice guy behaviors with lots of exercises.

- "When I say no I feel guilty" Manuel J. Smith: Techniques with lots of examples on how to stay assertive and deal with attempts to manipulate you into doing something. Relevant for dealing with colleagues, spouses, shop clerks, ...

There are others but those two books will get you very far if you take this seriously.

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Re:How to say no, for the people pleaser who always says yes by jamaicahest on Wednesday September 23, 2020 @02:31AM (#24563655)

I read "No more Mr. Nice Guy" a few years ago and it completely changed my perspective on personal relationships, made me realise my own behaviour was part of the reason for my failed relationships in the past. I highly recommend reading it if you are interested in self-improvement.

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Re:How to say no, for the people pleaser who always says yes by Rafael_Milcic on Wednesday September 23, 2020 @07:35AM (#24565740)

Reading "No more Mr. Nice Guy" was like someone peering into my brain and describing it. I'm cautious in taking the psychological explanations for granted, but the behaviors themselves were scarily accurate.

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Re:How to say no, for the people pleaser who always says yes by el_dev_hell on Wednesday September 23, 2020 @02:57AM (#24563812)

I've never heard of Robert A. Glover but the book sounds very interesting. Man, the GoodReads reviews are getting destroyed.

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Re:How to say no, for the people pleaser who always says yes by galfarragem on Wednesday September 23, 2020 @04:25AM (#24564446)

If you're unsure, he is sometimes a podcast guest. The book shares the same honest and vulnerable tone of his conversations.

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Re:How to say no, for the people pleaser who always says yes by el_dev_hell on Wednesday September 23, 2020 @07:23PM (#24573444)

Thanks for the tip!

Loading up this https://overcast.fm/+NS2z7mjsA for this morning's testing session.

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Re:How to say no, for the people pleaser who always says yes by foreigner on Wednesday September 23, 2020 @02:37AM (#24563695)

I just discovered "No more Mr. Nice Guy" a few weeks ago and it is completely blowing my mind!

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Re:How to say no, for the people pleaser who always says yes by immy on Wednesday September 23, 2020 @03:49AM (#24564205)

Just make sure to balance out its prejudice with The Will to Change

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Re:How to say no, for the people pleaser who always says yes by GavinMcG on Wednesday September 23, 2020 @08:25AM (#24566152)

Yes! Another comment described NMMNG as peering into his brain, but The Will to Change peered into my childhood and my relationships and my soul.

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