I have the same thing with some issues. Like for abortion - there's really two questions at the heart of the issue but almost nobody discusses them, so I can't make firm decision. The two questions are what defines a human life and when is it acceptable to take one.

I also have frustration when I pick a middle ground or outside the box idea. For example, with the prevalence of prenups and the variety of living situations/arrangements, I see the solution to the debate over non-traditional marriage to be making marriage documents a private contract to remove the government from trampling anyone's rights. Even the LGBTQ community is not fighting for everyone's right to marry - what about incestuous (with sterilization or longterm contraception to protect genetics) marriage or polygamy.

I haven't laid out all the details as this is an example but I can see the downvotes rolling in already...