This is why drawing people is such a good test. If you draw a house or a tree, you can get proportions wrong and it can still look credible. But the same types of error stand out glaringly in a picture of a person.
Interestingly, I went through it while taking a drawing class by someone who was not a fantastic teacher, and occasionally taught things directly contrary to how DotRSotB taught them. And wow, did the other students fail trying to follow what he said! It was amazing.
So yeah, go through the book, BUT make sure you ACTIVELY work through it, doing everything she says to do at each step... in fact, I think she recommends that you don't read ahead. It's worth doing it in conjunction with a class.
But really, as you said, drawing is about SLOWING DOWN and noticing the parts that make up the eyes, nose, ears, mouth. In my own drawing education I've found that the description I'd give of drawing is the "study of shapes", not symbols.
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Even if you're not drawing from something you can see, you can have a procedural memory of how to draw the thing, and you can see what you've already put on the page, and experiment if necessary using an eraser.
I don't have complete aphantasia, but my visual imagination is pretty weak, and I can still draw.
From my very short learning of sketching, I had a feeling that there's a precursor step before the pencil touches the paper: a mental rasterization process. Our brain wants to see things in a symbolic form, a dog, a yard, a tree. To draw, however, we must force our brain to see the imagery data: the highlights, the shadows, the gradients.
My drawing education was only a few months long, so I could be drawing a far-fetched conclusion here. I'd love to hear what experienced artists think of their own mental process before actually putting down the image.