> The thing i worry about is that folks that go through all of the physical and emotional (and financial) stress of transitioning only to find that it doesn’t soothe the pain are likely to perceive a social pressure to keep a lid on it.

Nope, "de-transitioners" are very welcome in the trans community, to tell their story, to hang out, to help others.

There's absolutely nothing that should force them to not speak out about their experiences as long as they treat others with basic respect; there are a few that have turned religious zealot and sue people.

Detransiton / desisting is relatively rare and frequently happens not because the person desisted trans identity but because they couldn't feasibly continue to transition due social or financial causes.

I find your broad "nope" troubling. How are you so comfortable speaking for the entirety of several others' experiences? (While problematic) the nature of the gp's claim would be impossible to prove or disprove without mind reading powers. Even if many or most trans-accepting groups make an active effort to support those with regrets...the social pressures for someone to not voice those regrets are blatantly obvious.

I know a couple of folks who transitioned thusly, retained their trans friends and continue to hang out in the community. For one, I was present during one's "de"-transition (it's just a transition). It went fine, because the community I know is supportive of how folks identify their gender. They talked about not feeling right for a few months, later announced that their pronouns were changing, so we supported them when they felt off and changed pronouns when asked. It was a fairly simple matter, really. It's not uncommon for trans / nonbinary people to experience fluidity over short or long time periods, and "de"-transition is on that spectrum. No biggie, the world keeps turning and we're there for eachother.

Notably, I've heard one such person say something along the lines of "well, no, I'm not cisgender, I transitioned twice so I'm definitely trans." Labels are pretty silly that way.

>the nature of the gp's claim would be impossible to prove or disprove without mind reading powers

Or by using inferential statistics.

That’s great to hear, thank you.