We live in a relatively low cost of living suburbs of a major metropolitan city - $2200 month mortgage for a 3000 square foot home.
After we got married, I moved from my house that was about the same size in a good neighborhood but horrible school system and moved to an apartment for my (step)children. Between rent going up constantly (went from $1200 to $1700 in 4 years, it’s now $2100 4 years after we moved), noisy neighbors, horrible WiFi and being forced to pay for Comcast, I would never want to live in any type of shared housing.
I'm sorry to hear that your experience has been bad but I'm very happy with my shared housing and there are a lot of people who feel the same way.
It doesn’t matter how fast your Internet is when your WiFi is unusable because all of your neighbors have the same service. We had to run three 100 foot Ethernet cables from my office where the cable modem was to three bedrooms - along the floor. It’s not like we could wire the rooms with Ethernet. I made sure to wire every room in our house. We do have gig e now.
> The view that a human can only have autonomy and dignity through either a workshop or outdoor hobbies is absolutely wild. You should try to understand other people perspectives, interests, and value functions before you proclaim stuff like this.