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Re:Alcohol as a social technology to check the trustworthine... by zelly on Saturday August 08, 2020 @01:51AM (#24089399)
School is a different domain. It's more similar to the case of entrepreneurs getting drunk together to make sure they can trust each other. As a young person in school, the subject of your interactions with your peers is friendship and relationship itself. You are making a conscious investment of your time, you are putting something at stake, and therefore knowing if that person is hiding a different side of themselves is relevant.

Making friends is good. This isn't about not making friends. This is about how to keep your job. Your boss gives you a job but your coworkers can take it away. Don't listen to advice that is meant for high level businessmen when you're not one. Don't mix worlds, don't find opportunities to create enemies, don't try to turn your workplace into your social life.

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Re:Alcohol as a social technology to check the trustworthine... by w0de02 on Saturday August 08, 2020 @02:19AM (#24089519)
I’m extremely lucky not to have you as a coworker. I encourage you to realize that other people are real, with minds and emotions much like your own.
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Re:Alcohol as a social technology to check the trustworthine... by vosper on Saturday August 08, 2020 @02:23AM (#24089527)
> don’t try to turn your workplace into your social life

I think this advice is too absolute. So many people, in my experience, make positive and long-lasting friendships at work that I just can’t see your advice as being generally good. If anything, in some work cultures I think this kind of aloofness could be very negative - you could end up an outsider: unprotected, uninformed, and alone. I think you could also struggle to build the kinds of networks that can get you into the next job, or open doors in the future.

At the end of the day it’s obviously a personal choice about how you want to treat your work life. YMMV, etc...

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