I think the reason it short-circuits their expectations is that what they're actually trying to do is "cancel" Islam on your behalf. Like: "wait a minute, I'm trying to defend/protect you here, isn't that what you want from a majority, to stand up for you?" And what you're doing, ignoring their protective effort, becomes a kind of betrayal. Which has got to be so frustrating -- the idea that you're not qualified to have your own opinion, that you have to conform to what the majority says simply because they're "helping" you.