>> You don't get to feel ...

I don't think you get to tell other people what they get to feel.

I encourage working on your empathy here. Who gets to decide "what's polite"? What if people disagree? Who gets to decide whose opinion counts?

>> The trauma of being asked not to make rape jokes can't be compared to the trauma of being raped.

???

>>> Just do the right thing, is it worth the arguing?

So I think your argument is very all/nothing. There's a whole spectrum of "this thing offends 1 person" -> "this thing offends 100% of people", and we do have to draw a line (is it 20%? 50%?) and not simply label things "offensive."

It's all especially confusing when some people are offended on "behalf" of others. I think oversimplifying this issue is wrong and making this very discussion "unsafe" is also wrong.

You started off with a reasonable point, but please take a moment to rethink what you're saying.

We're talking about words vs. words here. Nobody is enslaving anyone, which would be the equivalent to your utterly horrible analogy here.

>"Nobody is enslaving anyone"

You're dead wrong. So you DO incorrectly believe that slavery is over and done with.

I already presented you plenty of proof. Can you prove otherwise?

Context, please. Which is the people using these words in source code. The programmers are not, via their keyboards, enslaving anyone.

Just like if I said "words vs. words here. Nobody is raping anyone." in the context of a terrible standup routine. I'm not talking about every action in the whole world.