Re:The relationship between mindset and age (2017)
by danbolt on Friday June 12, 2020 @07:25PM
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I found once I dropped certain stoic, masculine behaviours I felt expected from society I became more productive and a better person. There are a lot of people who show subtle hostility to me now (both men and women) but it's honestly not worth worrying what other people think. I'm way too relieved most days.
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Re:The relationship between mindset and age (2017)
by Linell on Friday June 12, 2020 @08:20PM
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What are the behaviors?
Re:The relationship between mindset and age (2017)
by aspaceman on Monday June 15, 2020 @04:30PM
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Lot of folks get upset when men mention getting upset at something. Ex. "That hurt my feelings." "I don't like that you said that." "That made me happy." "Wow I feel great." Etc.
Men are commonly expected to be stoic and not express such things and just "go about their day". If they don't, it's viewed as dramatic and over-expressive. It's interpreted as immaturity, imo.
Re:The relationship between mindset and age (2017)
by danbolt on Saturday June 13, 2020 @06:38PM
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Off the top of my head, the things I do more now are:
- putting more effort into my appearance in nontraditional ways (eg: makeup, androgynous clothing, haircuts, etc.)
- mentioning that I'm frustrated by something
- acting naturally when people might be goading me into confrontational behaviour
Re:The relationship between mindset and age (2017)
by eebynight on Friday June 12, 2020 @10:17PM
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"...stoic, masculine behaviors I felt expected from society..."
I don't know what society you live in, but being stoic and masculine seems quite rare these days and is often frowned upon...