I think this was the stance of the segregationists in the Jim Crow South. They called it “separate but equal”
“So what if someone is getting to drink from a certain water fountain based on their skin color, or their gender? There are plenty of water fountains to go around for all of us.”
I find both statements morally reprehensible.
Because it’s racist.
e.g. https://www.gaucherdisease.org/blog/5-common-ashkenazi-genet...
A black man and an Asian man rob a bank together. They are caught, charged, and found guilty of the same crime.
The black man is set free because his race is over-represented at the local jail, but the Asian man serves 8 years in prison.
Because nobody is saying someone is superior to another person here, the above example is not racist and totally fine, in your definition of racism. Even though it is obviously deeply unethical and unfair.
By definition this isn't true.
It’s a bit like criticizing SpaceX for spending so much money going into space when that money could be used here at home, to solve real problems.
Correct me if I’m wrong, but it sounds like the root cause of the frustration here is what you pointed out: Right now you can create a girls-only club, but not a boys-only club. But the truth seems to be that you can create a boys-only club, and people do. They just don’t call it that.
If the objection is that you can’t openly do that without being criticized, then that’s valid too. But that’s how people feel right now. It’s not possible to say “Well, you should feel differently.” Or at least not effective.
If an initiative is helpful, why not let them? After all, we don’t know if this will help.
I think you'll get a lot of flak for this sentiment. But I used to feel the same way as you. What helped me change my mind was to realize that no one is taking away opportunities from me by giving them to someone else. "Opportunity" isn't a fixed pie. If we believe that wealth isn't a fixed pie, why not apply that same logic to opportunities and initiatives like this? It's worth thinking about, and deeply reflecting on.
And, you know, if someone was giving out special opportunities to certain people while denying them to us, that wouldn't be the worst thing in the world. Parents have been doing that for their own children since people were people. It's their money; they can put it toward whatever causes they want.