My limited understanding of the situation is that there's general displeasure with the leadership response around Trump's persistent & ongoing violation of community standards that other members would have been censored for.

This is qualitatively extremely different from the position of "I should be allowed to do anything as a private party" and also different from the "government should regulate it".

It feels like a strawman to paint everyone with the same brush and then just focus on the contradictory extremes. There's a pretty clear contingent that is in favor of having clear community guidelines that apply to everyone & don't have blanket carve-outs for those with already powerful voices.