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Re:A third of Americans now show signs of clinical anxiety o... by watwut on Wednesday May 27, 2020 @03:23PM (#23328530)
I really don't think so. The people in the past were not getting automatic respect and were not getting automatic love. The marriage was often economic transaction and you often had to live among people who did not respected you. The marriage happened after short time of knowing each other and if it turned out mistake, that was it forever, no love.

Some people's lives had meaning, plenty of others were basically surviving in routine .

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Re:A third of Americans now show signs of clinical anxiety o... by RunningDroid on Wednesday May 27, 2020 @03:49PM (#23328961)
>The marriage happened after short time of knowing each other and if it turned out mistake, that was it forever, no love.

This makes it sound like you believe love is a bool that gets set at the beginning of the relationship, but from what I understand love is a float that the couple can work to increase.

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Re:A third of Americans now show signs of clinical anxiety o... by watwut on Wednesday May 27, 2020 @04:32PM (#23329559)
No, love don't have to die. But, initial passion, is not love. And people are much different in the first period when they are trying to make best impression and later on after months. In extreme case, many abusers (of both genders) show themselves only after months.

For long term love, it matters greatly whether you two are match by personality and values. And short term engagement make it easy to select wrong partner.

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Re:A third of Americans now show signs of clinical anxiety o... by courtf on Wednesday May 27, 2020 @03:34PM (#23328731)
We don't really know this with such certainty. Our records have gaps and only extend a few thousand years back, at most. Even then, we often only have bits and pieces for certain populations. It's a large stretch to generalize over human history.
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Re:A third of Americans now show signs of clinical anxiety o... by freeone3000 on Wednesday May 27, 2020 @04:03PM (#23329187)
Personal contact is super important to people. Physical closeness is important. Being able to meet people in person is important for personal relationships. This stuff matters, and it's very hard to get right now.
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