Re:Just some red flags. No big deal. Just ignore them
by mjburgess on Saturday May 23, 2020 @05:10AM
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She didnt say "I didnt enjoy the HR day and found it stressful". She didnt say she's trying to "minimise emotional stress", she said it was a "redflag".
Doing a pointless quiz and being given a macbook pro is a "redflag".
This is a person who does not take any responsibility for the stress they feel and attribute it all to some nefarious feature of the environment they are in.
What she needs to do here is learn what features of that environment caused her stress, and be self-aware enough to seek out other employement which is structured differently.
What will happen if you don't understand yourself well, is that you'll keep thinking its "problems with other people" that you need to "fix". And you can't fix the entire world. You have to learn a compromise for the sake of your own mental health.
Re:Just some red flags. No big deal. Just ignore them
by hjek on Saturday May 23, 2020 @09:02AM
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If stepping out of an uncomfortable situation can evoke such a strong negative response from so many people (as can be seen here), that doesn't bode well for actually confronting the issue.
Doing a pointless quiz and being given a macbook pro is a "redflag".
This is a person who does not take any responsibility for the stress they feel and attribute it all to some nefarious feature of the environment they are in.
What she needs to do here is learn what features of that environment caused her stress, and be self-aware enough to seek out other employement which is structured differently.
What will happen if you don't understand yourself well, is that you'll keep thinking its "problems with other people" that you need to "fix". And you can't fix the entire world. You have to learn a compromise for the sake of your own mental health.