Re:Just some red flags. No big deal. Just ignore them
by mjburgess on Saturday May 23, 2020 @05:10AM
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She didnt say "I didnt enjoy the HR day and found it stressful". She didnt say she's trying to "minimise emotional stress", she said it was a "redflag".
Doing a pointless quiz and being given a macbook pro is a "redflag".
This is a person who does not take any responsibility for the stress they feel and attribute it all to some nefarious feature of the environment they are in.
What she needs to do here is learn what features of that environment caused her stress, and be self-aware enough to seek out other employement which is structured differently.
What will happen if you don't understand yourself well, is that you'll keep thinking its "problems with other people" that you need to "fix". And you can't fix the entire world. You have to learn a compromise for the sake of your own mental health.
I like how she's listening to herself and insisting on some basic human decency. You should always at a minimum insist on your right to walk out of uncomfortable situations. Personally, I'd be doing the exact same thing for similar reasons, and I'd feel bad if others tried to come up with a diagnose for me for trying to minimise emotional stress and eventual burnout.