Ennui: How to Overcome Chronic Boredom

Re:Ennui: How to Overcome Chronic Boredom by downerending on Wednesday April 29, 2020 @02:58PM (#23022792)

This somewhat overstates the case, but it does indeed make a huge difference. For myself (also rather unattractive), I wish someone had sat down with me early on and explained these rather awful facts of life.

It might seem courteous and kinder to pretend that this isn't going on, but living in ignorance has significant costs of its own.

Now that I'm older, I'd definitely advise figuring out where you are on the scale and dating down, not up. If you're with someone significantly more attractive, you're paying in other ways--make sure you know what they are.

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Re:Ennui: How to Overcome Chronic Boredom by cambalache on Wednesday April 29, 2020 @06:14PM (#23025109)

Yep, I have been infinitely happier dating down, there is no a comparison. Not so much because it is so nice (it is lame) but because dating up is hell on earth. The other "trick" to date across or up (in physical attractiveness) is to offer other things, like money, (this works beautifully with single parents) but I do not like that route.

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