Re:Ennui: How to Overcome Chronic Boredom
by cik2e on Wednesday April 29, 2020 @01:27PM
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Speaking as an above average looking person (or so I’m told), I’ve found that here in my 30s, physical attraction has taken a major back seat to the personality factor. Maybe I’m in the minority on this one, but I don’t really think of people as attractive or not any more based on facial features or anything else that we don’t have control over with regard to our bodies. What matters is physical fitness and whether we can have a mutually interesting conversation.
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Re:Ennui: How to Overcome Chronic Boredom
by Loughla on Wednesday April 29, 2020 @02:14PM
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As I get older, I still consider physical attractiveness of the people around me. But what I've noticed is that I 100% make fewer choices based on that physical attractiveness.
In my 20's, I was very likely to make a decision to work with or for someone if they are attractive. In my late 30's now, I am much more likely to only base it on the other person's ability and/or intelligence in a subject area.
Re:Ennui: How to Overcome Chronic Boredom
by cambalache on Wednesday April 29, 2020 @06:10PM
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In Internet 90% of the people are "above average" in attractiveness. Either you are not that good looking as you think you are or you are very modest scratching the untruthfulness. Very attractive people tend to value MORE not less physical appearance, which it makes senss, due to assortative mating and the worldview they grew up with.
Do you mean attractive people post more photos of themselves on facebook/instagram?
Re:Ennui: How to Overcome Chronic Boredom
by adelHBN on Wednesday April 29, 2020 @11:29PM
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No, I believe vain, insecure people post lots of photos of themselves online. Many of them compensate for their ugliness by clothes, background and makeup. Most beautiful people that are busily secure in their lives don't have the time to post 10 times a day!!!!
Re:Ennui: How to Overcome Chronic Boredom
by cambalache on Wednesday April 29, 2020 @09:02PM
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No, I mean good-looking people tend to care a LOT more about their appearance than regular people. Not only their appearance but the appearance of their partners. Being good looking is part of their identity and has shaped their worldview.
Same reason smart people value intelligence a lot, rich people value money, and so on and so forth.