Re:68 Bits of Unsolicited Advice
by TeMPOraL on Wednesday April 29, 2020 @11:33AM
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Then again, maybe not. Reminds me of the rejection therapy[0] - a self-help game in which you try to get rejected every day. To play, you have to purposefully make requests for things others can provide you, that are outside your comfort zone. Like, asking for a discount at the market. Or asking that person you like out. Etc.
The point of that game is that it's surprisingly hard to get rejected (unless you ask for something completely silly and/or impossible). So if you need something, you may as well ask for it, and stop feeling so afraid and vulnerable about being rejected. Other people turn out to be happy to help or accommodate you (just like you are, if someone asks you for something). I've tried this in the past with some small things, I don't think I've managed to get one rejection. A surprisingly large number of people, myself included, are just more shy than it's optimal.
The point of that game is that it's surprisingly hard to get rejected (unless you ask for something completely silly and/or impossible). So if you need something, you may as well ask for it, and stop feeling so afraid and vulnerable about being rejected. Other people turn out to be happy to help or accommodate you (just like you are, if someone asks you for something). I've tried this in the past with some small things, I don't think I've managed to get one rejection. A surprisingly large number of people, myself included, are just more shy than it's optimal.
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[0] - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rejection_Therapy