Obviously dense cities (in their current form) aren't completely self-sustaining either, given that they need food. But this is universally-understood, while for some reason many people seem to be unaware how much of a closed-loop rural communities _aren't_ when they talk about the sustainability of sparse living patterns at modern standards of living.
The economics at the state level, play out just like how they do at the national level. The high population, economically vibrant parts generate tax revenue, which is redistributed to the sparsely populated, economically depressed areas, of which are not self sustaining, no matter how much the net receivers think they are.
Obviously both types of regions need each other to maintain the modern style of living as mentioned, but in some kind of societal collapse situation you'd probably rather be on some isolated farm that could theoretically sustain itself. And I feel like if those areas chose to go on with less subsidy money they could do so, but it's not a bad trade for food and everything else that comes from them. If one really wanted to hold the other hostage the one with the food would win.
That doesn't make them self-sustaining in modern society. And saying that roads are a luxury seems to be incredibly ignorant of how society evolved and how important trade routes (as well as ocean access, something cities generally have) for getting resources you otherwise don't have access to. Such as materials, spices and meds. Something that, you know, an isolated farm wouldn't readily have access to.
Especially since salt is kind of a big deal for food preservation.
Your "state level" explanation seems to ignore states that don't have major metropolitan areas.
On top of that, the idea that rural areas' standard of living without urban subsidization would amount to losing "some luxuries" is so out of touch with reality that I don't even know where to start (though the sibling comments do a good job).
The far bigger concern is that very few (if any) rural towns in the US have self-sustaining food supplies. Cut off their access to the outside world, and there's a very high probability that they'll starve just as quickly as a larger city will. American agriculture has shifted hard from diversified/robust subsistence farming to large-scale industrialized monocrop farming, so you'd have to rewind a century or so of "progress" in order for a rural town to be able to feed itself. This is also not an insurmountable problem, but the effects are quite a bit more dire.
This narrative always seemed remarkably short-sighted because cities have enough economic bargaining power that they can just import the goods they need. Farm towns would quickly fall apart the moment they had to pay for all of their infrastructure (meaning power, internet, gas, transportation) because all of that is heavily subsidized.
Don't get me wrong, as much as I prefer dense urbanism, there are plenty of things about sparse living that appeal to me, and I fully understand how many people would choose suburban or rural life. Hell, I'm not even supposed to some degree of subsidization from more efficient communities, just on grounds of diversity and anti-fragility. It just gets frustrating how committed sparsity advocates are to pretending that these lifestyles aren't heavily subsidized. A self-sustaining rural community (despite having its charms) would be appealing to far fewer people than one that gets to have its cake and eat it too, by redistributing some of the societal advantages of urban living (like economic efficiency).
Some big parts of why we subsidize rural areas is 1) an emergent property of allowing people to live where they choose and providing a base standard of living for every community, and 2) romanticism for our pastoral past, and an implicit belief that societies should provide the opportunity sparser living with more exposure to nature.
I don't want to brush off these aesthetic concerns as "wrong": the 100% urban megalopolises of science fiction always carry at least a tinge of dystopia, because a desire for nature and open spaces is to some degree hardwired in us. But they have nothing to do with what we're talking about, which is sustainability.
The kind of robustness you're talking about doesn't have a whole lot to do with the urban/rural divide. It's entirely possible to have an almost-universally urban population and still maintain domestic food production, either by changing agricultural practices to fit cities better or at worst by having a "skeleton crew" instead of entire communities (the number of people living in sparse communities right now is _far_ below the minimum number of people we'd need to grow food).
Again, I'm not suggesting we do this, or that there's a clear path from point A to point B. I'm just illustrating how your point is a non sequitur.
Because again, despite what people seem to think, smaller towns rely a lot on cities as part of their supply chain for things such as medical supplies, gasoline and infrastructure. Isolated farms are not self-sufficient no matter how much you may believe it to be so, because once the power runs out, once the water stops flowing and the supplies stop coming in, said isolated farm is far and away from other natural resources that are rather important for farming and survival.
I'm wondering if people have ever been to the midwest?
Without the highways most of these areas wouldn't be able to buy or sell goods to the outside world.
(Aren't trains cheaper? Maybe we should be building more track and fewer lanes)
when in reality current transportation infra funding from federal government is about military defense.
its the same reason electricity lines, highways, and train rails don't occupy the same space. there is no reason they couldn't and would reduce costs overall. but it also means a single strike can disable all 3 systems.
in today's world I think its a pointless effort and we should resolve those issues to reduce the overall costs. but here we are.
They sometimes do, though. Namely: if you're going through the mountains, there are only so many mountain passes, and therefore only so many places where these things can get through the mountains. I-80 in the Sierra Nevada mountains is a perfect example of this; between Colfax and the 80/20 interchange (if not all the way to Truckee) they're very much occupying the same space because there's nowhere else to go (thankfully that power line's pretty minor compared to the one following 49 to the north, but the one following 49 also happens to be colocated with rail).
The more viable solution - and indeed, if you look at a map of our energy infrastructure¹, the one that we use - is to make the connections as redundant as possible. This has plenty of peacetime benefits, too (for example, if I-80 and the adjacent railway both shut down because of a blizzard or avalanche, trains and trucks can route around it, albeit with delays).
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This is generally true - typically, paved rural roads in the US are county roads. Nicely maintained gravel roads are typically county roads as well.
Long term, the cheapest roads are in older towns that still have brick streets. Some are a 100 years old and have nearly zero maintenance. They are slick and noisy.
On a side note, we have hundreds of miles of gravel roads to bike. We even have an internationally attended event called the Dirty Kanza.
1) city or county highways and also serve a commercial purpose
2) are bad quality and have been left to decay
3) have been crushed and turned to gravel roads
They manage to maintain a mile or more of roads to most isolated houses.