Re:The Case Against Marriage – What You Lose When You Gain a...
by simonblack on Wednesday March 04, 2020 @04:12PM
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Then there's the other side of the coin: What your spouse loses when (s)he gains you.
Second-time-arounders who take their time and spend several years with their partners before marrying again tend to choose more wisely.
My first marriage: 16 and a half years. My (2nd) wife's first marriage: 18 and a half years. Our partnership: Four years as de-facto partners, 28 years married. 32 years together so far.
Big lesson from first marriage: When you "win", you lose. My first wife and I were always arguing and fighting. My second wife and I have never argued. We both refuse to fight. (We've had some terse words, but never a fight.) We agree on so many things that nothing else is important enough to lose angst over.
Second-time-arounders who take their time and spend several years with their partners before marrying again tend to choose more wisely.
My first marriage: 16 and a half years. My (2nd) wife's first marriage: 18 and a half years. Our partnership: Four years as de-facto partners, 28 years married. 32 years together so far.
Big lesson from first marriage: When you "win", you lose. My first wife and I were always arguing and fighting. My second wife and I have never argued. We both refuse to fight. (We've had some terse words, but never a fight.) We agree on so many things that nothing else is important enough to lose angst over.