You're being downvoted but I kinda agree with at least parts of your post. I live in a smaller city in the southeast (and have lived in similar such cities my whole life) with a little over 100k with around 500k in the metro and and probably a large number of people I see on Tinder are looking to find someone to marry. Mind you in in my early 20s.

We need to be able to live alongside and get along with people who think differently than us, or we'll just keep getting more polarized.

There's holding a different opinion based on reasoning and analysis, and holding a different opinion due to bigotry and hate. Putting the latter on the same pedestal as the former is what has polarized this country more than anything.

I want to be polarized... away from people who believe in Sunday school stories over science or who reject people because of their gender, sexuality, race or nationality.