You won’t find it, likely. Also, on the recommendation against co-sleeping, I went looking for the actual data. What I found was not SIDS related, but deaths from being squashed, and quite a few of them. I managed to find a few case studies, and they all included a parent under the influence (alcohol mostly in cars I found) and obese parents.

Regardless of how true it is, the establishment cannot make a recommendation of the “Co sleeping is ok if you don’t drink, not overweight, and a light sleeper” kind, as many of the people in those categories are in denial of being in those categories. so it will be “co sleeping is always dangerous”.

Here in Norway they make that exact recommendation.

I'm impressed. In the US, such a recommendation would be disastrous and whoever made it would be sued to oblivion ....

But then, you nords leave your babies to sleep in the snow which is perfectly healthy but would get you a visit from child protection services in the US (did not hear of such a case, but have heard of cases for letting 9-year old kids walk from school or play basketball without parental supervision)

...which inevitably leads to things like this when the two worlds come into contact: https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2017/nov/26/anette-soren...

I'm leery of co-sleeping mostly because it seems to be highly correlated with kids who have bad sleep habits and keep waking up their parents constantly (don't worry how you'll know, they'll tell you) well into their toddler years, and beyond. And I'm pretty sure the co-sleeping is a big part of the cause (can't get used to waking up mom & dad for entertainment every time your natural sleep cycle wakes you up a smidge if they're not there to wake up and start giving you attention instantly).

But like anything else, fuck, if it's working for you and the risk is very low, do what you need to do. I avoided it because I kept seeing hellish outcomes but if that's not what's happening for you, go for it.

My wife and I coslept (and often still cosleep) with both of our children. They both sleep through the night without issue.

Our oldest goes to sleep early and will insist on going to sleep when she feels tired and will wake up with me in the morning. Our youngest fights sleep until exhaustion and prefers to sleep in (until 9-10am if allowed). They have been raised exactly the same way.

We take way too much credit for our children's sleep habits.

> can't get used to waking up mom & dad for entertainment every time your natural sleep cycle wakes you up a smidge if they're not there to wake up and start giving you attention instantly

The opposite: When my kids wake up in the middle of the night if they are alone they freak out. If there is another person there they feel comfort and go back to sleep without waking anyone else up. But YMMV.

The thing with babies is that they are, from the start, individuals. Some like a lot of contact, some don’t; some are very active sleepers, some aren’t; some will do fine by themselves in a crib, some won’t. You have no choice but to figure out what works for that kid. That’s not to say there aren’t some general procedures you should follow. I think most kids do best on a regular schedule, for example. But you’ve got to take them as you find them.

The problem is that those indescribably exhausted parents roll on otherwise restrict the breathing of the infant.

Babies want that feeling of comfort, which is why you swaddle.