I think this meme is very true for neurotypical people. Over the years I've practiced some skills around things like voice inflection and body language. Most people do these things naturally, but for me it's 100% a conscious effort. I naturally have an extremely flat affect. Very monotone, no facial expressions, etc. When I remember to "turn those skills on" my life is SO much easier, even though I'm saying the same things and performing the same tasks. How I do them matters more than what I do.