I find that being intelligent simply means that one makes more convoluted problems for oneself ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ It's not really a win (with respect to being happy).

I have a fabulous memory for all the dumb things I have said and people I have accidentally offended. They bother me a lot, but they teach me.

Then I go through my day hearing dumb things and see awkward Offensive behavior over and over by others, but don’t think to judge, I just see the best that was intended.

So I should be easier on myself, but I am not ... because it is so clear to me when I fail, and that I can do better, so I have to analyze and try.

I think this does make me better over time, but it’s not exactly a 5-minute recipe for happy cake.