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Re:An Update on Bradfitz: Leaving Google by incompatible on Monday January 27, 2020 @08:17PM (#22165552)
Criticism doesn't bother me. It will generally come into three categories: 1. Insults and trolling with no valid content: this tells me nothing I didn't know already, that there are morons in the world 2. Valid criticisms, but things that I already know about and either can't do anything about or where I decided it wasn't worth the effort: again nothing I didn't already know 3. Valid criticisms that I hadn't thought of: these contain new information and are potentially very useful.

The masking tape criticism would come into category 2.

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Re:An Update on Bradfitz: Leaving Google by RobertRoberts on Tuesday January 28, 2020 @10:32AM (#22170278)
"That sucks" is valid criticism for many people, as well as "who would want that?" and "why did you waste your time?".

Your categories are all logical responses, what about the immediate emotional effects of the responses?

If you have never experienced an immediate emotional response from criticism I count you extremely lucky that you don't have to face it. But for those of us that do, we are looking for answer to the emotional side of things.

Is there some technique you have used to blunt the emotions and look at them only logically?

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Re:An Update on Bradfitz: Leaving Google by matz1 on Tuesday January 28, 2020 @12:32PM (#22171648)
>what about the immediate emotional effects of the responses?

Our brain/body is good at adapting so you simply ignore it or rather embrace the pain, yes it will be painful in the beginning but the more you are exposed to it the better it will be over time.

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Re:An Update on Bradfitz: Leaving Google by RobertRoberts on Tuesday January 28, 2020 @01:10PM (#22172213)
I suspected someone may say something like this. Is jumping in the deep end the only real answer to issues of fear or emotional turmoil? (ie, get back on the horse...)

I don't disagree with you, I was just hoping there may be something else to consider.

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Re:An Update on Bradfitz: Leaving Google by incompatible on Tuesday January 28, 2020 @10:20PM (#22176997)
I am not immune to misguided emotional responses, but I believe I can generally recognize them for what they are, and ignore them. Especially when criticism comes from somebody you care about, like a partner, the emotional response is the strongest. But this is also the time to analyse what they are saying rationally and establish whether there's any truth in it. The emotional response seems to me to be to mindlessly defend.
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Re:An Update on Bradfitz: Leaving Google by matz1 on Tuesday January 28, 2020 @01:32PM (#22172520)
Is there a way to be strong without exercising ?

You are right, there may be a way, I am hoping there maybe something to consider...

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